When it comes to achieving your goals, be hungry, not desperate

be hungry, not desperate

I saw those four words sitting in my notes app in my phone today.

I often use the notes app or Evernote to write down blog topics or Instagram captions that I later want to share in the world. This one caught my attention today because it was a reminder to myself.

Whenever I work with a client – especially a client in the creative industry – I get really clear about why they contacted me and what they want to achieve or learn in their business. As a consultant, I know it’s my job to help them bridge the gap between where they are and where they want to be.

Where it first began.

Although goal setting in business is important, this model really came from my everyday life after I took a job without pushing during a negotiation.

I knew in the back of my mind that I should have negotiated, but the first “No” that followed my initial offer had me shook.

So, I did what many entry level twenty-somethings on the verge of getting removed from their parents insurance would do…I took what I could get.

Although feeling a bit slighted, I decided to do my best work and make the most of it. Surely, my high performance would warrant a promotion and a raise. After all, at my other job, I was promoted within the first year. As a matter of fact, just about every place I worked at had offered to promote me to a management position…

The realization

The day of being promoted by my employer never came and I realized it would take a significant promotion for me to make up for what I felt like I lost by not negotiating in the first round.

One day I woke up and realized that instead of waiting on someone else to promote me, I should work on promoting myself. I’m not sure if it was when I decided to go back to school, when I made up my mind to quit my job, or when I took a negotiation class that I came to that realization.

All I know is…I vowed that if I could help it, I would never put myself in a position to be desperate again.

Honing the Hunger

Now, I couldn’t march around with this new found confidence without any boundaries. I had to take into account the following:

Refusing to be desperate could potentially mask itself as a refusal to compromise.

Without boundaries, benchmarking success/failure would be nearly impossible 

Both knowledge and wisdom would be necessary in my pursuit. Having all the knowledge in the world meant nothing without the wisdom to know when to use it

I spent a lot of time in prayer, reading books, asking questions. I’m a strategist by nature (and by every personality test known to man). Learning and processing information is at the core of my foundation so I whipped out that good ol’ library card.


I began to envision my life and realized that settling was a discredit to myself and to the gifts and talents that have been bestowed unto me. In order to maximize my potential, I couldn’t be disrespectful with my gifts, my time, or the help offered by others.

Along the way, I found myself coming up with one core value in the form of this prayer:

In everything that I do, let my motives and my intentions be pure

Setting the pace

The beauty of doing all this for the first time was that I was creating a frame work to continue to refine for the rest of my life. Whenever there’s a shift in your life, you have to take time to go back to what you told yourself you would do and under what constraints you would do it under.

Moving in the spirit of desperation means that you will take anything, but that’s not what we’re about.

Being hungry is great, but learning how to harness your hunger is where the real power is.

If you have ever been through this (or if you’re working on it now!) be sure to drop a comment below!

Always speak life,


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